"The first duty of love is to listen." Paul Tillich
The measure of a healthy marriage or relationship is not if there is conflict, the measure of a healthy marriage is how you repair. Some form of conflict is found in all relationships and it can be an important indicator that something needs to change. We change, so our relationships, our marriages need to change as well. Most of the time, our relationships don’t keep up with the speed of our personal, professional and family changes. We are good at reacting to changes; we are not so good at intentional, conscious, purposeful changes. So we argue, we fight, we grow distant.
Paul Tillich’s quote reminds us that love comes to us in the form of communication and during conflict; communication is the first thing that breaks down. That’s why we can feel so hurt, so unheard, so distant, so unloved, so quickly.
Maybe that is why you find yourself here at this place, reading these words. Maybe you are searching for help to begin to repair your relationship. It is possible; there is hope... with the right skills and tools.
As a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, I can help you and your partner learn new effective communication skills and other relationship tools to repair, restore, and reconnect to the relationship, to the marriage you have always desired.